There are lots of things I miss about Sweden, particularly when it comes to kids. First of all, it is dang hard to find toddler socks with those rubber stickies on the bottom. Is it due to the propensity of wall-to-wall carpet here? Whatever the reason, we have a hell of a time finding socks that don't send Sophie slipping and sliding all over our wood floors. Probably what's #1 on my miss list is Swedish children's clothing shops. If Lindex shipped to Sweden, I would be all over it. Fortunately there is a glimmer of hope with all the hip baby clothes available in Portland, like the adorable onesie above.
Also battling for the #1 spot right now: I really miss the Swedish laid-back attitude toward pregnancy. I found a great midwife clinic here that's actually in walking distance from our house. And it's like an English-speaking version of my Swedish experience. BUT we had our 20-week ultrasound at the hospital on Monday, and the doctor was the epitomy of everything I imagined with an American pregnancy. First, the exam took 2 hours versus 20 minutes tops in Sweden. They looked for EVERYTHING. Good in one sense, but bad in another, which I will expand on in a minute.
After the technician did the initial screen for over an hour, a doctor came in to give us the results. She introduced herself and then asked a series of questions like, "Are you working with a genetic counselor?" and "Have you opted out of getting any genetic tests like an amniocentesis." Looking like a deer in headlights, I finally asked her, "Is there a reason you are asking me all these questions? Should I be concerned?" She said that no, it's just something she asks all women of my age. Over 35. WTF???!!
In Sweden, I asked my midwife if there were any special tests that I would get because of my age (also over 35 back then). She kind of gave me the look of "why?" And then said, no, there wasn't anything to be concerned about with my age. She said if we wanted any special tests we would have to go to a private doctor ... it wasn't part of the normal Swedish system.
Anyway, back to my U.S. anatomy scan ... they found something strange. She didn't really know what it was, which was kind of comforting since it didn't point to anything being wrong. But I have been more nervous than excited for the past two days. Thankfully, I got a little more clarity from my midwife today who said that it seems totally benign and is probably part of normal development. And that it wasn't until recently that we really started looking at the baby with such scrutiny — now we're finding stuff and are like what the heck is that? On one hand, it's great that we have such sophisticated tests and tools to look at stuff (like being able to find out we're having a boy!), but then it just makes you super-obsessed about every little thing you find. This thing they found is the size of a pinhead!
I know you can't have it all, but if someone could just give me my Swedish baby clothes shops and Swedish medical system, I would be a much happier Portlander. Tack.